Clearing up some matters…

Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh…

I would like to bring to light certain matters that have been a matter of controversy for some time now, namely the intimacy between Ahmed and Faz. From the time they got married I’ve had some readers point out that I’m going too much into details with their physical interactions, that it’s against haya, that it’s not allowed, that it’s a betrayal to my deen, to name but a few. Some have gotten pretty nasty as well, telling me how disgusting the content is etc etc… Previously I’ve responded to such comments individually in the comments section but this time I thought I’ll respond once and for all here so all the readers can read it and get a clarification, those who have commented and those who might be thinking similar things but have not voiced their thoughts.

My husband is a qualified, well known mufti and has answered many questions over the past few years. He is reliable and trustworthy and he’s also got taqwa when answering questions Alhamdulillah so he wouldn’t be biased just because I’ve asked him something in my own interest. I take his fatwas for all my mas’alas so previously as well I made him read the nikah post to ask him if I’ve written anything wrong. He asked me, “is this a married couple?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “in that case it’s fine. There’s nothing wrong.” I answered this to my readers but some were still sceptical over his answer, some implying that if I’d asked a senior mufti the answer would have been different. This time as well concerns are raised with people finding the content too explicit. Again I made him read and asked him if my writing is wrong. Again he asked, “they’re married, right?” I said, “yes.” He said, “then it’s fine.”

So to all the readers who still find the content wrong and unislamic; I have asked the mufti I trust and follow and he has given me his reply. My heart is now at rest. I will not force you’ll to follow the same mufti and fatwa. If you still find it wrong you can always unfollow and choose to read other blogs. We have many blogs written by wonderful authors Alhamdulillah. Read something you’ll are comfortable with instead.

To all the readers who gave me their feedback nicely, Jazakillah khair. I truly appreciate your concerns and feedback. As for the nasty ones… spare me your negativity in the future. I could do without your verbal sewage, really.

Wassalaam xxx

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85 thoughts on “Clearing up some matters…”

  1. Right on sister! Power to you. I didnt have time to read the comments but after reading this post now, I won’t even bother reading the sewage nasty comments.
    If they have such big issues UNFOLLOW. Simple.
    Leave our author alone all u trolls, she is writing a lovely Halaal blog that we enjoy reading.
    Also on another note, if you can block off the nasty people from receiving ur blog in any way ( i think this is still advanced for the internet but maybe it exists) then do it. Trolls dont get to say wat they want and get away with it.

    Jzk

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    1. Maaf sister, I know u feel passionately about this, but that doesn’t give you any right to name calling. Yes, some ppl have been very negative and rude, but that’s on their head. You publicly calling ppl names is now adding to your list of deeds. I mean absolutely no offence, but please do keep in mind, that two wrongs doesn’t make a right. And if you stoop to the level of others, that will make you no better than them. At the end of the day, that’s still your fellow Muslim.

      I make Dua Allah keeps us all on the straight path, and unite our hearts

      Sincerely💕

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      1. The sister has done no name calling don’t know where you are coming from you don’t need to follow this blog if you feel that way no one forces you to read

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      2. Trolls? That doesn’t count?

        I have absolutely no problem with the blog. In fact, I find it quite well written and enjoyable. My comment above is to the sister who commented in defence of our author dearest, but in the process, called others trolls. I understand she may feel strongly, but that’s a really harsh, direct insult. It’s just… It’s really easy to type out the first thoughts that come to one’s mind, but we forget the consequences of what we are saying.

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      3. Hello. Sorry i have been busy and didn’t follow comments. “Trolls” are what online bullies are called ma. Plz look it up and get with this generation. I could have called worse names but I stuck with what is apparently well known name for online bullies.

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      4. 👍. Still, it would be best to refrain from any sort of Name calling. Our beautiful Deen teaches us to be kind to even our worst enemies, and theses are fellow Muslims, sure, maybe they are a bit misguided in the crude way they stated their opinions, but at the end of the day, they’re still Muslim.
        At the end of the day, even the ‘troll’ used in internet terminology is a big insult.

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      5. I feel really sorry for our wonderful authoress. We got these big apas here trolling 1 way just bullying people around. Kindly unfollow should you have issues with the blog. You’ve had your say, you did your duty, now leave.

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  2. What a shame. I think the blogs have been written very carefully and modestly. I have thoroughly enjoyed reading them and so have many others. In fact it made me realise how much I actually love my own husband. I feel dissapointed that we have joy killers. Don’t be disheartened dear author. You have many fans!! And my advice to those who are criticising..find another blog that is suitable for you..

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  3. Wa Alaykumus Salaam wa Rahmatul Laahe wa Barakaatuh
    I dont usually comment but I have to
    I read this blog from the beginning and it has been ‘Being Muslim’ always, and there is nothing ‘explicit’
    The ‘intimate’ details are not even intimate lol
    And the main thing is that it is Halaalan Tayyibah!
    Keep up the great writing ukhti, there are lots of lessons to be learnt from your blog, including how a married couple should be 😘😗😗

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  4. Its sad how people can be so quick to judge.. wonder what they find so behaya as though they living in olden times where the mention of hint of intimacy was like NO NO! Sorry but in the extreme behaya world we living in at least we have a halal blog here mentioning things in a halal way and no where is there explicit details(no one wants that) just some hints here and there.. whats so behaya if they are married.. when they were not married and interacted that was fine with people(no one made a big fuss then yes our sister explained why all that happened).. people can read novels and thats all k but reading halal stuff they have a problem and just want to put someone efforts to feel at waste.. sorry but if u can’t say good don’t ! At least don’t hurt our dearest authrouress..

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  5. I know that you don’t owe anyone explanations but I can’t help coming to your defense by adding to this.

    I just want to reiterate what I’ve commented before by saying that kitaabs on nikaah contain content which is in fact more detailed than what is on this blog. so the author is essentially just spreading marital knowledge that one can find in Islamic kitaabs. The only difference is that she is setting it out in a way that would appeal to those youth who would never willingly pick up a kitaab. It’s like, if kitaabun nikaah explains how marriage should be between X & Y, she has simply just renamed X & Y by calling them Faz & Ahmed. And in fact she hasn’t even gone into as much detail as kitaabs do. Both the kitaabs and the blog are for educational purposes so what’s with the commotion?
    Why don’t you then go and reprimand the muftis who have written kitaabs and demand that they stop teaching people the ‘S’ word?!

    Why don’t you tell them that teaching people to be intimate with their spouses and how to do it, is against modesty?

    Many people are saying that ulema wouldn’t approve of this, but not one of them has actually quoted an aalim to back up their claims whereas the authoress has quoted hers to prove her own point.

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    1. I totally agree with you sister! 👍 you said it all.
      And to our amazing authoress-
      Thanks a lot for taking the time to write such amazing posts that have beautiful lessons to it…and also updating us whenever you can’t post. I really appreciate it. This is the only blog I’ve come across where the author posts on the days mentioned, and if for any reason she’s not able to, she always let’s us know in advance. Alhumdulillah

      I love this blog and if it had very intimate details I wouldn’t be reading it in the first place, but the author has written it so beautifully and clean without mentioning every detail of the couple. This blog has helped me in so many ways to be honest. So many lessons to learn and that too in a fun creative way. Being so caught up in the world and our daily routine, this blog freshens your mind and brings you that spiritual and happy uplift. 👍👍

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    2. Im sure many actually have. i wrote to mufti ak personally. will quote his fatwa here since you asked for it. let me know if you want to read the question as well. i can post it too, except that its a bit long lol! but still it can be posted if anyone wishes to read it.

      Below is mufti AK’s fatwa:

      السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُاللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

      Sister in Islam

      It is not permissible.

      A K Hoosen
      mufti@telkomsa.net
      twitter: @akhoosen
      website: http://www.muftiakhoosen.net

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    3. Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

      Respected Brother/Sister in Islam

      www.
      beingmusl1m.wordpress.com/

      We have briefly browsed through the writings of the blog in reference and we have found it to be totally inappropriate for Muslims, scholars or non-scholars. Whilst it may be correct to narrate a fictitious story, the fiction should not be indecent of charged by intimate scenes. This is against Shariah. The Hadith below is sufficient admonition for such behaviour:

      Jabir ibn Samurah (Radhiyallahu Anhu) reported: Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said, “Verily, obscenity and immorality are not part of Islam. Verily, the best people in Islam are those with the best character.” (Musnad Ahmad)

      And Allah Knows Best.

      Wassalaam.

      Fatwa Department

      (Mufti) Ismaeel Bassa

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  6. The title of this blog alone “being muslim” brings light into her struggles and sacrifice in a modern society. I have passed this blog onto many readers. My brother, nephew ,even students who I felt would get guidance through this blog. Alhamdulillah, the manner and content in this blog I am pleased that someone is making an effort for our young muslimahs to know that pardah is not a prison. Marrying an aalim is not the end of the world and living islaamically is not difficult especially in todays western indoctrinated world. The way you have worded each chapter makes it known that it is not difficult to live a normal life. My daughter follows this blog. I also encouraged young girls getting married to read. So from the bottom of my heart sister I thank you for taking out the effort to share such deep knowledge that not many of our youth out there get before getting married. Readers , read each chapter with an open mind, see it not only from Fadheelas p.o.v , see it from Ahmeds p.o.v as well…..

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  7. Assalamualaikum Sister. Please note your story is amazing. I’m enjoying every bit of it especially the not soo intimate side of it. I’ve read more explicit things than what you have wrote . This is normal life. As you said people shouldn’t read your blog if they have a issue! Can’t wait for more posts especially the explicit ones 😂.

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  8. your writing is amazing sister keep up the great there will always be negative people who will weigh you down allah give you and all of us the strength

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  9. It’s halal in the sense that it is happening between a maaired couple. But it doesn’t make it halal to write it down. Makes it sound like a dirty story. Muslim are prohibited to describe or talk about intimate details. It doesn’t mean if it’s a married couple then we can go into all details. Umar RA saw a married couple holding hands in public and he reprimanded them. Islam reached us modesty.
    إذا لم تستح فافعل ما شئت

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    1. Assalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

      A few things…
      1. It is halal that it is in reference to a married couple
      2. What you are saying regarding it as impermissible to write down, there are kitaabs that deal with the topic intimacy between a couple quite explicitly written by the Ulama. Frankly, it’s enough to make one blush. One girl I know said that in the Madressah that she attended, in Gr 7, the girls were informed, in great detail, the acts that occur in the bedroom, by an Apa. It is something that they are taught, and the etiquettes are especially covered in in the older years as sometimes subjects in themselves .

      Basically, our culture has turned the whole topic into some big taboo. Yes, there is Hayaa, but to the extent that it has been described in the previous posts is, like the authoress said, her mufti said is permissible. No rules have been broken

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      1. Salamz. I dont usually go through comments but the title of this post caught my eye lol.

        Maaf but i have to point out with all due respect to both you, and everyone on a similiar train of thought: Theres a major difference between reading/covering all the intimate details in order to learn (like as you’ve mentioned about madresa and kitaabs etc) and reading an ISLAAMIC leisure blog for entertainment.

        Is there even a single reader here who comes to beingmusl1m solely to learn about islaam? Or even better, to learn about the conjunctions of intimacy between muslim couples in islam???

        Lets be honest to ourselves first. The deen is pure. Zina of the mind (irrespective of whether its regarding a fake charatcer or conjured up images) is the haqq. Just as we wish for respect upon the fatwa of the mufti we trust, lets respect those who are brave enough to pay heed to the fatwa of the imaan in their hearts and bring to attention their concerns.

        I know most people will just tell me to leave and get lost now. Truth be told, im a weak human being who isnt strong enough to always do whats right. Reading is my weakness, and this blog is very tempting, especially considering we’re already 200 posts into it. Make dua for me.

        Frankly i do personally know a few who just silently stopped reading this blog without causing a big hoohaa, like my sister and bestie. So thats always an option for those whos intentions are to cause fitna. However imho anyone who puts forward their reservations and advise with respect is NOT necessarily a ‘fitna maker’. After all, people are entitled to their opinions and everyone deserves respect.

        So yes in the end everyone is responsible for thier own actions, and if our talented author genuinely believes nothing is wrong in being explicit, then its upon the conscience of every individual to decide where they stand. Allahu A’lam.

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      2. Wslm…like I responded to the commenter above, ukhti, the difference of opinion here is not whether explicit details are allowed or not but whether what I wrote is explicit or not. According to you and some other readers it is. According to my hubby it’s not. He didn’t say explicit details are allowed, please don’t misunderstand his fatwa. He said what I wrote was fine meaning I didn’t cross the line into being explicit. If I had written explicitly he would have been the first one to tell me it’s not correct. So maybe it’s urls definition of behaya and explicit that’s questionable? I for one know that if I have to hear that a mufti didn’t find the content explicit I would question myself as to whether I’m maybe wrong… also the line “our author genuinely believes nothing is wrong in being explicit” is completely incorrect. Being explicit as in revealing all details of the bedroom is wrong. The amount I toned down and wrote is not. There’s a difference there. At the end of the day everyone has an opinion. Mine is backed by a knowledgeable person. If you still feel it’s wrong you have the option of not reading further. But to still come here and disagree publically with the fatwa of a mufti is in my opinion very disrespectful. Wallahu a’lam

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      3. With all due respect to you as well, whether or not the readers consider this an educational blog or a lesirurely Muslim blog for their entertainment, doesn’t change the fact that the author intended for it to be educational. So in my opinion, the material being covered here IS for the purposes of learning. Just like the kitaabs are. It’s education- not solely entertainment but is put forward in an entertaining way to appeal to a larger crowd. Also, the details weren’t explicit but for those who are unsure what is and isn’t acceptable within a marriage, this is provides a brief outline of what may happen and how to respond to it.

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      4. Assalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakaatuhu

        Bismillahi Rahmaani Raheem

        To start of with, I’d like to say that this is NOT an attack on the author.
        I have been pondering over the comments that I have posted, and thinking about and seeing the above Fatwa’s, I have to retract what I’d said about the permissibility of the above. I am no Mufti, nor an aalima, so it was very wrong of me to have commented in the manner that I did. The guilt of it is eating me up. This is my apology, this is my Taubah, and the retracting of what I said.
        I follow both Jamiat KZN and Mufti A.K so if they said it’s wrong, it’s wrong.(at the very least for me) The author has her own Mufti whom she follows, and if he’s given her the go ahead, then by all means.
        Furthermore, I took Ml Yunus Patel’s name, that was wrong of me as well. I’m fairly certain that he wouldn’t approve either.

        JazakAllahu Khairan

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    2. The key words here being “all details”. I definitely haven’t written all the details down as I’m sure you are aware. So maybe the difference of opinion here isn’t whether explicit details are allowed or not but whether what I wrote was explicit in the first place or not. My hubby didn’t say explicit details are allowed, he said what I wrote was fine meaning I didn’t cross the line into being explicit. I respect the fact that you have a different opinion but you should also respect the fact that a knowledgeable person gave a response and leave it at that whether you agree or not. Shukran

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  10. السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
    I agree with all the above comments and make Duaa ALLAAH take our sister from strength to strength with her blog
    Well said and clarified by our sister 👌🏻💯

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    1. و عليكم السلام و رحمة الله و بركاته

      You know what the worst part is? That people will hear the fatwa of a mufti and still come here and disagree publically without having the backing of another mufti, thinking their opinions to be more knowledgeable. What has the ummah come to, where the opinions of the knowledgeable people are disregarded just like that? This is what has upset me the most. People don’t even know who he is, how can they just dismiss his words because they still find it wrong? There’s no respect for ulama left these days. Awaam think they know better. Smh
      P.S. This isn’t aimed at you. I just felt like ranting to someone

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      1. I agree with you sister but not all people will agree with you. There are some who will do/read worse than what is portrayed in the blog but when reading something that is Halaal Edutainment then they become Muftis themselves and will pass their own fatwas…
        Sister there are many great Ulama who have been shot down(literally) by people who didn’t agree to their opinion just because it was not something that they agree with

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      2. Basically, it’s as simple as this:

        To quote an example from the life of the late Ml Yunus Patel Rahmatullahi Alaih, he once told his daughter to buy ice cream for him. So, she went, and now getting it, she sees that there is either no halaal stamp, or something seems questionable to her. So she calls her father and tells him that ‘you can’t have it.’
        He responded by telling, I’ve done my research, to me it is Halaal. BUT, for you, if you have that doubt, then it will not be permissible for you to have it. But get it for me. So he had it.

        So, sometimes, people will go to a Mufti. The Mufti will say that it is allowed, but the person has a niggling doubt, in that case because of the doubt, it won’t be permissible for him.
        Like bovine gelatine. NIHT says it’s permissible, according to whichever mufti they follow. However, I simply will not eat it, because of the doubt. So in that case, impermissible for me.

        JazakAllahu Khair

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      3. Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

        Respected Brother/Sister in Islam

        We have briefly browsed through the writings of the blog in reference and we have found it to be totally inappropriate for Muslims, scholars or non-scholars. Whilst it may be correct to narrate a fictitious story, the fiction should not be indecent of charged by intimate scenes. This is against Shariah. The Hadith below is sufficient admonition for such behaviour:

        Jabir ibn Samurah (Radhiyallahu Anhu) reported: Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said, “Verily, obscenity and immorality are not part of Islam. Verily, the best people in Islam are those with the best character.” (Musnad Ahmad)

        And Allah Knows Best.

        Wassalaam.

        Fatwa Department

        (Mufti) Ismaeel Bassa

        Fatwa of Jamiatul Ulama

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  11. Slm sister. I cant believe this is still going on and you still have to keep clarifying yourself. I love your blog and the fact that it is packed with lessons. According to my understanding, as the author you have done your duty of writing about romance and intimacy without going into details. And you have further done your duty by asking the mufti that YOU FOLLOW who has said your content is fine. Khalas! Now be at ease and continue what you are doing.
    As for those people who are still opposing this, or cant bring themselves to accept this fatwa: IF the mufti you follow says reading about even this much intimacy in a blog is not allowed (though none of you has even quoted A mufti let alone the one you follow), then now its upto you to follow that mufti n stop reading this blog. IF after a fatwa like that you continue reading this blog then that isnt the author’s responsibility. She doesnt follow the muftis you do so she doesnt have to follow their fatwas.
    This is what i understand and may Allah forgive me if i’m wrong. And forgive us all for disrespecting our ulama. Respect ulama though their views may differ from ours (within the limits of shariah). The sahabah also had differences of opinion. But we behave as if our opinion is the only correct one and everyone has to comply with it regardless of the other person being more knowledgeable.

    Miss author please dont let it get to you and just enjoy ur break. Looking forward to the next post. ❤

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  12. Seriously? This again?
    Its simple guys.. the authoress has done her research and backed it up with proper evidence.
    If u feel u dont agree with the content.. dont read 🤷🏻‍♀️

    Have a good holiday darling 💗 U’ve done an awesome job! Let all of this just BE!

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  13. My dearest beautiful sister. This story is so so so well written and we do not need explicit descriptions of their intimacy. I’ve been reading and considering my 16 -year-old daughter to also read as there is so so so much information in about a lot of how to’s and how not to so you keep writing as you have, you’ve done the research. Haters will always hate, until they come into the light.

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  14. السلام ورحمة اللّٰه و بركاته
    Really? How long is this going to continue for? With all due respect, our dearest author told all, that if they didn’t like the intimate acts between Ahmed and Faz, then they shouldn’t continue reading, because our author had warned everyone that the details of their intimacy will increase (obviously to a certain extent-that it remains halaal to read)

    And in the first place, why did you even continue reading the blog, Ahmed and Faz would talk in their Campus days(which was used to show that even that is considered as zinaa and is haraam), wasn’t that worse for you to read, if you consider the details of Ahmed and Fadheelas intimacy explicit? I mean that was haraam, and now it has become halaal by their nikaah, so why still comment nastily?

    If our authors husband is a well known mufti, why carry on questioning her doings(which there is absolutely nothing wrong in), and disrespecting the Muftis view?
    If you still don’t feel comfortable reading the blog, stop….and in future if any of you who disagrees with our authors work, and wants to comment, back it up with your Muftis view!

    Dear authoress, please don’t feel disheartened ❤️Your writing is amazing, and has helped me in so many ways, even though I’m not married… Your reward will only be with Allah, and know that your blog has helped others too, immensely💯👌

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    1. Exactly 👍 plus there are other blogs which are way more explicit and it’s disgusting. Stories start of good and then there’s a whole Bunch of explicit details and that really put me off of reading other blogs, till finally I came across BeingMuslim and alhumdulillah there’s nothing so explicit about it—which Is why am still reading it and absolutely enjoy it. I would instead describe the so called “explicit intimate details” as sweet and kind gestures and nothing more than that, which is in fact encouraged between married spouses. I don’t understand why people have issues when she hasn’t even described their whole bedroom intimacy details.

      Oh well!! Just enjoy your break, don’t let the negativity get to you. Stay positive, keep smiling, and continue BeingMusl1m 😜😃 👍

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  15. Lovely story dear. You haven’t written anything explicit but sometimes the posts may leave imaginary minds wondering which perhaps makes some readers uncomfortable?? That’s my assumption but I don’t know. I feel constructive criticism should be accepted as long as it was said politely. So maybe adjust your story a little for your sensitive readers. It will still be an amazing blog. They’ve come this far and I’m sure they would love to read until the end. That’s my suggestion to end all this on going drama. And I think people shouldn’t compare this blog to terrible stories, but rather understand those who haven’t been exposed to all those things. Its your choice though, just my thoughts. Enjoy your break 🌹

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    1. Constructive criticism has always been accepted which is why I even thanked the readers who shared their concerns and feedback nicely. But now that I know it’s allowed I won’t change my blog for anyone. Today it will be this issue,tomorrow another issue. I can’t keep dancing to other people’s tunes. It’s simple,the fatwa says it’s allowed. If you follow it good for you,you can carry on reading. If you follow another fatwa that says it isn’t allowed or due to your taqwa level it makes you uncomfortable then it’s better you don’t read and read something you’re comfortable. You don’t ask people to change the way they talk or write,you choose to listen to or read material which suits you. I had warned people many posts ago that the posts are gonna continue this way now that faz and ahmed are married. If people chose to keep reading then come and criticise again…well that’s not my problem.
      P.S. This isn’t aimed at you directly but rather at all the readers xxx

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  16. I cant even… I mean you didnt even go inside the bedroom and so beautifully mentioned ‘that’ had happened… what do the other commentators expect? That nothing of that sort happens between a couple and then suddenly she is expecting?
    please dont get disheartened and do continue the blog… You should be at peace that a mufti has said what you are writing is not explicit….
    I really love your blog and have recommended to some others as well…

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  17. Dont cover up…its vulgar and theres honestly no need to write all those urgh stuff, disgusting!!!! No shame to be honest…

    And everyone doesnt need to put in their two pence to show their loyalty and chamchagiri….by doing that it wont lesson the behayai of writing such stuff for entertainment and enjoyment purposes…dont know where the world is heading to!!!!

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    1. Of course it’s vulgar to you my dear…you apparently know way more than our muftis as well👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 now do me a favour…go and write your own blog and show ignorant people like myself how to write a proper Islamic blog. Maybe we all can learn a thing or two from you😁

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  18. I personally feel that a level above fatwa is taqwa..let’s all strive for it..The fatwa is correct and in its place BUT shouldn’t we all be striving for taqwa..
    To.those using the vulgar language harsh words..restrain and adopt taqwa..
    To those who find the blog too behayaa,restrain and adopt taqwa.
    To our beloved author..There is always a level above fatwa..striving for it means we have to sometimes look above.I have personally read a good islamic blog with nikaah and less intimate description..maybe strive to attain that..a way of adopting taqwa..
    I also love reading.make dua Allah grants me taufeeq to restrain and read only absolutely beneficial content.
    This was said in peace..no ill feeling and no shooting bullets..
    I love our beloved author for Allah’s pleasure.

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    1. To our dear authoress. Call me crazy, but i think id be happy to have readers of such calibre that actually find it uncomfortable to read what 99% of muslims wont even bat an eyelid at. Ive seen blogs where “explicit” is an understatement, and you wont find a single comment against it. Simply because the readers dont mind or have no hope and expectations from story. To me it only proves that your blog is very islaamic which has attracted readers with the level of taqwa that causes even moderate details to render them uncomfortable. Because subhanallah, you set such a high standard! As sister anon said lets strive for taqwa over fatwa. Allah will reward you manifold inshaAllah.

      To the dear readers, i also understand where you coming from. After all modestly is half of imaan. And just as you wont view the possibility if losing half your body, or the body of any other muslim, lightly – its natural to feel the same way about imaani aspects like haya. However remember while we were choosen as the best of ummah because of our ability to make ‘amr bil maroof wa nahi anil munkar’, we are also taught to consider the feelings of others, and speak beautifully. I feel many of us lack tact in puting our concerns foward, and do so in a way which aggravates others. This unfortunately causes your own valuable points to be missed and buried in an array of insults and bitterness.

      May Allah guide me and all of us to give and accept praise and criticism in good faith for HIS pleasure.

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      1. Ameen thumma Ameen…
        Yes anons comment was beautifully put. But repeating what I said to her which was meant for all, a mufti gives fatwa according to fatwa, not taqwa so if your level of taqwa is higher than the fatwa you cannot call him wrong. Also,fatwa can be enforced because it pertains to halaal and haraam,taqwa cannot. So yes I will try my best to bring that taqwa within myself but if I choose to follow fatwa alone that still won’t make me wrong. Wallahu a’lam

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    2. You are right ukhti. What I mentioned was fatwa. Taqwa is above it and should definitely be tried to be attained as much as we can. May Allah grant us all the highest level of taqwa inshaAllah.
      That being said fatwa is something you can force on someone because it pertains to halaal and haraam. Taqwa is not something that can be enforced. Hence if I do choose to continue my blog in this same vein there will be nothing wrong in it and I can’t be forced to change it. I will of course try to attain taqwa inshaAllah but since the fatwa is in its place I or the mufti cannot be called wrong as well. Remember,it’s the muftis duty to pass out fatwas based on fatwa,not taqwa. I feel many people are missing this point here so it’s for everyone,not just you.
      Love you too for the pleasure of Allah ukhti😑❤

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    1. Yes Alhamdulillah a lot of people have told me they don’t find my writing immodest or explicit. Which makes me feel that the difference of opinion is in what readers consider explicit. I feel the readers finding such content explicit should not force their views on the rest of us and feel only they are right but should instead respect the difference of opinion here and the fatwa as well. Wallahu a’lam (this message is for all the readers ukhti,not you personally)
      Shukran ukhti for your supportive words😘❤

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  19. Definitely..I agree 100%,which is why I didn’t comment earlier..it is the choice of each individual and a person following fatwa can never be scolded for not adopting the level of taqwa..
    Personally I feel taqwa is between you and Allah ..if you choosing that part in any aspect then someone choosing to act on fatwa should never be looked down or even given the tough approach as in some comments..
    For perhaps we will choose fatwa in ten things and taqwa in one an look down on others who choose taqwa in 10 and fatwa in one..taqwa is between you and Allah..So if we think this isn’t correct then stop reading…
    Can we all just say ..TOPIC CLOSED……LOL

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  20. Going for honeymoon
    Hanafi Fiqh > Muftionline.co.za
    Q: What does Islam say about couples going for honeymoons after nikaah?
    Bismillaah
    A: Refer to our article http://ihyaauddeen.co.za/?p=7235
    And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
    Answered by:
    Mufti Zakaria Makada
    Checked & Approved:
    Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach
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    Honeymoon
    http://ihyaauddeen.co.za/?p=7235
    Honeymoon
    Man constantly searches for peace of mind, satisfaction and inner-happiness. While some search for it in wealth and romance, others try to acquire it through sport and amusement, and yet others seek it through travelling the world and frequenting five-star holiday resorts.
    Generally, newly-wed couples, in the aim of strengthen their bond of love and companionship, explore different avenues of excitement. Hence, booking into holiday resorts or even travelling overseas for one’s honeymoon has become the norm.
    It should be borne in mind that the union of nikah has been created by Allah Ta’ala to serve as the means of providing man with peace, tranquility and inner happiness. In order for this union to serve its purpose, it is imperative for the couple to secure the blessings of the nikah.
    The blessings of the nikah will only be achieved when one leads a pure and clean life in total conformity to the Mubarak sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam).
    It is not reported in the Ahaadith that the Sahaabah (Radiyallahu Anhum) would go on honeymoon trips after nikaah. Rather, they aimed to engender love among themselves through fulfilling the rights of the nikaah and enlivening the Mubaarak Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) within their lives.
    Hence, one understands that these norms and trends are new innovations which have been adopted from the western culture.
    Often, such honeymoons become the cause for the barakah of the nikah being totally lost on account of the evil and sinful environment in which the couple is present.

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